This book is brilliant, chilling and necessary. Dr. Sztokman does a comprehensive and insightful job exploring sexual abuse among rabbis and other high-profile Jewish professionals and donors. As a survivor of abuse at the hands of a congregational rabbi in a Reform setting, I found some of the book especially painful and resonant — for…
“Well then,” Rabbi Straus counseled, “you’ll need to give yourself permission to mourn twice.” The rabbi was new to our congregation, and I hadn’t met him yet; we were talking by phone. “Mourn twice?” “Once for the mother you had, and once for the mother you didn’t have.” I’d just told Rabbi Straus that my…
A recent article in the New York Times, “Fidgeting Your Way to Fitness” (May 11, 2011), suggests that “incidental” physical activity, such as drumming your fingers against your desk top in frustration, can burn calories and help maintain or augment your physical fitness. This is great news to those of us whose primary form of…
Late one recent afternoon, spinning my wheels on all kinds of tasks that needed my attention, I called my sister Erica. “Hey Eri, wanna go get a drink, or a cup of coffee?” “Well—um, I’m kind of cleaning up my apartment, and—” her voice was tiny. “I could use a hand.” She was asking? Forget…
“Think before you speak”—could there be a clearer path to a wholesome life? But clinical tests now show that verbal restraint can lead to significant health problems. Indeed, unspoken zingers and lost chances to tell someone where to go were recently identified as primary causes of word deposits in the body. Researchers believe these fatty…
You know those fancy aluminum walking sticks that look like ski poles? Okay, fine, like orthopedic canes? Well, I went out and bought myself a pair. My artificial hip makes it difficult for me to get enough weight-bearing exercise, and when I saw a few people using sticks around town, I realized this could be…
It was late afternoon when my publicist, Nina, called, and I was scrambling to get ready for a party I was hosting that evening. I was thinking flatware, not book promotion. Plus, I’ve barely gotten used to the idea that I have a publicist. “So this reporter from the New York Times just phoned,” Nina…
According to a recent S. F. Chronicle article by journalist Nicholas Carr (6/20/10), electronic media are eroding our ability to comprehend the written word. Unlike printed material, text on a screen must compete with all the other visual stimuli that pop up on our computers. Because of this, Carr argues, screen technologies are removing us…
First: walk around with a sense of constitutional wrongness that makes you feel compelled to apologize all the time. Be baffled that people tell you to quit saying you’re sorry. Like prayer, like worry beads: what harm is it doing? When others talk about how difficult it is to admit to being wrong, think to…
My father was an eccentric who loved discussing topics that no one else seemed to know about. Not a classroom learner, he dabbled at college but didn’t finish, apparently conceiving a philosophy out of it: academic achievement was the sign of a small mind. The trouble was, I liked academic achievement. As a child, I…